In this solo show, Rachel talks about what it means to abandon the double bind of being nice, rewrite the story around niceness, and do the work to create the boundaries and emotional resilience necessary to not ‘be nice’.
Pushing back against the idea that “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”, this audio essay is a mixtape exploring the messy knot surrounding ‘being nice’ and what it means to abandon and rewrite that narrative. I talk about the web of double binds, the nuances of ‘being nice’, applying the Open Space law of mobility to boundaries, how to navigate interacting with people in our lives with kindness, not necessarily niceness, and creating the emotional resilience and vulnerability to say no thank you do ‘being nice’.
Read this episode as an essay.
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Rachel is a writer, podcaster, and self-employed designer and visual facilitator. She lives in NC with her dog, Devin. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @rachelbedaring.